I saw a social media post in which a woman gave some advice to another woman about being assertive, an ongoing challenge that many of us have. Although she encouraged the woman to be confident, she also suggested that the woman should end her conversations with things like "sorry for bringing this up" to avoid being perceived as aggressive and minimize the chance that colleagues will view her as a threat. What are your thoughts? How have you balanced the need to be assertive against the perception of being aggressive?
I agree with Lorelei. You don't need to sugar coat it. However, I will often say "do you really want to know". People that know me including my bosses over the years understand if you ask I will tell you and I will not hold back or sugar coat things. When I address a situation, if it is sensitive, I will try to (as I am sure we all do) select my words carefully.
Mary Margaret Allegro,
Executive Administrator - IT Department
American Society of Civil Engineers
1801 Alexander Bell Drive
Reston, VA 20191