We do not need to apologize for bringing up matters that require attention nor do we have to coat them with sugar as we speak. We are professionals and as such we can speak directly and intelligently to an issue. If we apologize and slather our words with sugar, then we further enforce gender stereotypes and reinforce the assertive versus aggressive notion. I have found being direct and equitable provides for efficiency in speech and reduces misunderstandings in the intent of the message.
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Lorelei Chernyshov, CIP, IGP
Merrick Bank
Assistant Vice President, Information Governance
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Original Message:
Sent: 08-03-2020 16:24
From: Jessica Marlette
Subject: Assertive vs. Aggressive
I saw a social media post in which a woman gave some advice to another woman about being assertive, an ongoing challenge that many of us have. Although she encouraged the woman to be confident, she also suggested that the woman should end her conversations with things like "sorry for bringing this up" to avoid being perceived as aggressive and minimize the chance that colleagues will view her as a threat. What are your thoughts? How have you balanced the need to be assertive against the perception of being aggressive?
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Jessica Marlette, CIP
Information Governance Counsel
White & Case LLP
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